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Experience Is Not About a Place or Event, but About Mindset

Written by Katy Goshtasbi

Posted on: August 12, 2019

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I’ve had lots of “good” experiences in my life. Unfortunately, I’ve had “bad” experiences, too.

As I look back, one of the worst experiences was when my father died years ago. It was painful and confusing. Another “bad” experience centered around the end of a friendship/relationship. A third, “bad” experience most recently happened around me leaving an organization that I had been a part of for over eight years.

What all these “bad” experiences have in common is that they signaled an “end” of something in my life: the end of my father being physically present, a relationship, a community involvement.

So why is the “end” of anything so painful and “bad” for me? When I stop to think about it, this makes no real sense to me. As an experience, does the end of anything really have to be bad?

Most recently, I read the following quote regarding marketing campaigns and the customer experience:

It’s not the event itself that prevents you from coming back the following year. It’s the experience you remember having.

The key word for me here is “remember”. What I take this to mean is that my memory of the event, not the actual event, marked my experience. I’m often reminded of a great phrase, “perception is reality” from “A Course in Miracles”. What I perceive is my reality of the event, NOT the actual event.

Therefore, it seems that an experience truly is not about the event itself (a death, a transition, a promotion, a birth, etc) but about the mindset I have around that event and how I choose to interpret the event experience.

I was recently interviewed on a podcast and asked about my program, Emotional Resonance Factor ©. In the program, I teach that in order to resonate with your audience, you must emotionally come across happier than your audience–at some level. The question is always the same: how can you ask me to be happy if my current experience is one of difficulty/lack of happiness?

The answer goes back to our experiences of an event and our mindset/interpretation of that event. Just because an event in our life or our day has left us less than happy, does not mean the event has to dictate our mindset and our ability to emotionally resonate with our audience.

How is that possible, you ask?

Well, for most of us when we have a bad experience all we can focus on is that one bad experience. Who can blame us? After all, the negative experience is so real for us and can linger for so long afterwards. However, this way of being, leaves me very powerless, like everyone else is in control of my life except for me. Whenever I linger too long on a bad experience, I feel lost in it.

But, what if there was another way to go about your day?

What if I told you that you could choose to focus on something different, something that may have not even manifested yet in your life but was more positive than this “bad” event?

What if, as the quote above says, we chose to focus on a memory of that experience that was more positive than negative? If the entire experience was awesome, then that’s easy to recall a positive memory. If the experience was negative, then you’ll just have to look for a memory that is more positive than not.

Simple, right? Well, as the great Werner Erhard states, some things are simple, but not easy.

So what does all this mean for you and your brand? Stop and consider:

● How often does your bad experiences dictate your mindset and reactions?

● How often do you miss out on events and people because you can’t let go of the bad experience and memory?

What would it look like if you:

● Stayed self-aware long enough to realize you are having a bad memory of an experience?

● Choose to focus on something more positive/fun/happy in the present moment? Maybe it is not even related to the bad memory/experience in question. Maybe it is a thought of your kids laughing and playing or of a great meal you just enjoyed. Anything will do as long as it is positive in nature- even if it is made up using your imagination.

Reduced your stress enough to be able to get yourself to see this possible positive memory.

Want more? Express your truth in order to create wealth and value for yourself with my Emotional Resonance Factor© Mini Course. With this course, I support you to connect to, step into, and express your truth in order to create wealth and value for yourself.

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Stand Your Ground: 3 Ways to Establish Boundaries in the Workplace

Written by Katy Goshtasbi

Posted on: May 28, 2019

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My life is awfully “hard” and complicated when I don’t set good boundaries with my family and friends. What happens is that I feel like I have to do what others want me to do and say. Then I become resentful and angry. Then I feel out of control and like a victim. This all leads to me being very unhappy and absolutely no fun to be around. Then I take this crappy mindset to work. Sigh….. Let’s talk about 3 ways to establish boundaries in the workplace.

The number one problem, as I see it from my expert vantage point, is that employees bring all their personal baggage with them to work. That’s understandable. We can’t leave our human being at home when we go to work.

The problem is we can’t expect employees to be productive when they bring their baggage to work and can’t establish healthy boundaries to deal with their baggage. Here are 3 ways to establish healthy boundaries at work.

1. Why, why, why? If each employee knew exactly WHY they go to work each day, they would be on a good start to being more productive. When I was a practicing lawyer, there were so many days where I just couldn’t see the purpose/point of what I was doing each day at work. What benefit was it to the world? Why bother? When you truly take time to figure out your true purpose at work and how you serve the world, you can bring a new perspective to work. This new perspective allows you to set healthy boundaries each time something doesn’t sit well with your ultimate work purpose.

2. Talk it out, please. As a consultant, I spend the most amount of time working with employees and leadership on establishing easy and healthy communication. I find that either employees: a) don’t know how to say something to one another or b) feel unsafe bringing a topic up. Regardless, you have to be brave enough to bother trying to communicate. Otherwise, there is no way you can have any boundaries.

3. Know your audience. Having healthy boundaries at work means knowing yourself AND knowing your audience with whom you are setting healthy boundaries. As humans, we tend to not focus on others and just on ourselves. If we took some time to learn about the people you need to communicate your boundaries to at work, your life would be way easier. How? Click here to Read.

One of the hardest things to do is to feel self-confident enough to know where to draw our boundaries. Personally, this is a hard task. At work, it becomes even harder because we feel our livelihood depends on it.

The 3 items above are simple, but not easy. I know because I struggle with it daily, too. Start slow and take it easy on yourself. Anything you do is better than nothing.

Take small steps and know I feel your pain and live it daily, too. Reach out to me. I’m your biggest fan and here to support you. Want more support? Sign up for bootcamp or read this.

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Why Branding in the Music Industry Isn’t Just Making Music

Written by Katy Goshtasbi

Posted on: May 13, 2019

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Most artists are in the “business” because they love to make music. This makes complete sense to me. However, most of these same artists are often frustrated and upset when they discover that making music isn’t always enough to build a raving fan base and become better known and heard as a musician. Let’s discuss why branding in the music industry isn’t just making music.

Let’s face it. You’re a serious musician and you’ve got lots to share with us through your amazing music and artistry. What a brand, right?

Actually, what brand?

I only wish your music alone was enough to brand you and get you the results you seek- fame, fortune, raving fans. Why not?

I often cite the following statistic: Up to 78% of anything you and I buy, as consumers, isn’t about the content of what we are buying, it’s about how we feel about the content. This includes your music and artistry. We buy you from an emotional place, not just based on your music content.

Why?

No purchase is initially based on logic alone. We just justify our purchase through logic- after the fact. So, while we may love your music, it has to move us in a way that triggers our impulse to buy.

How do you trigger this impulse?

Your brand is way more than just your music. Your brand has to consist of everything from your name, your wardrobe, your messaging during your sets, your nonverbal communication from the stage, your album art, your community service platform, your story of why you are an artist and so on.

So stop and ask yourself: have you taken into account most, if not all, of the items I list above? If not, why not?

I realize this is not a easy proposition. But I also want you to realize that somethings that don’t seem easy, may be easier than you think if you enlist the right support and help. You don’t have to master everything yourself. My goal is to make you stop and think about these things and then surround yourself with the right experts who care about you: the person and your band (if you have one). These experts will then open up your time so you can focus on creating music.

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The Missed Facts About Rebranding A Company & How to Avoid A Pitfall

Written by Katy Goshtasbi

Posted on: May 6, 2019

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Over the years I’ve noticed that most businesses and companies discuss rebranding their businesses in a very particular way that doesn’t work for me. This makes me stop and think about what’s missing in these company and business plans. Let’s discuss the missed facts about rebranding a company and how to avoid a pitfall.

When most companies decide to rebrand, the process is only about 50% effective, in my opinion.

Why?

These companies have a very different definition of rebrand than I. Most often the common pitfall is that most companies look at a rebrand as a “face-lift”, if you will. This face-lift involves a new logo, tagline, color scheme and a lovely new website to go with all of these other changes.

While all of these changes are good, then what?

What I mean is that most companies who rebrand pay a vendor a lot of money to develop all of the above items. After that, the rebranded company sits back, takes a deep sigh of relief and exhales: ta-da! The “rebrand” is done, so let the magical impact begin.

Guess what? The “rebrand” isn’t close to being done and there is no magical impact except that the company just spent a lot of money.

What are the missing facts to avoid this pitfall?

What really has to happen is that before a company starts a rebrand, leadership and management have to step back and really consider why they want to rebrand, reflecting on:

• What’s working now in the company?

• What’s the growth strategy for the next five to ten years?

How productive are each and every employee? Why or why not?

• How will the rebrand lend itself to furthering the growth strategy?

• How will the rebrand lend itself to the enhanced productivity
of each and every employee

• How will the rebrand be messaged to, and include the brands of,
each and every employee?

The common thread is a successful rebrand must take into account future growth goals AND each employee’s brand contribution.

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3 Ways Respect in the Workplace Benefits More Than Just the Staff

Written by Katy Goshtasbi

Posted on: April 29, 2019

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Recently someone on one of the boards I run said to me that they were sorry they had failed as a board member. I was stunned. I had never thought they had failed at all. It made me stop and think of all the ways we don’t respect ourselves and display that feeling of self-disrespect outwards. Let’s talk about 3 ways respect in the workplace benefits more than just the staff.

Self-Respect

When we talk about “respect”, it’s often in terms of others’ actions: how someone respects us or how others don’t respect us or aren’t worthy of our respect. I tend to believe that respect starts with ourselves.

Why?

I see the symptoms of lack of self-respect every day as a consultant in companies and employees. If we don’t respect ourselves first and foremost, then no one else can ever respect us. We think of ourselves as a “failure”, as my example above shows, and then we end up bringing our lack of self-respect to work each day.

Just imagine if we are in management in addition to having such low self-respect. It would certainly show up as we lead and manage others. So self-respect benefits ourselves and then the staff.

Collaboration and Productivity

When we have self-respect and thus, respect for others we work with the results are amazing for productivity.

Why?

We tend to become much more collaborative because we feel good about ourselves, our roles at work and our reasons to get up each morning. We speed up any work process when we collaborate, and productivity goes through the roof.

Sales and Growth

When productivity is high because employees are collaborating, then sales and growth must be impacted in the positive.

It seems hard to believe that such a thing like a self-respect could impact sales and growth of a business or organization. People would like to ignore this fact because it is so much easier to just focus on the “numbers” and “trends” and “operations” and everything else that is linear and non-emotional, but it is true. Everything in business is impacted by the human element each of us brings to our roles and jobs. We can’t ignore it.

So what does this mean for you? Each of us has to work on our own level of self-respect in order to bring the best of us to work as a brand. In turn, this will impact productivity, collaboration, sales, and growth of a business.

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Building Self-Confidence to Overcome More Than Just Stage Fright

Written by Katy Goshtasbi

Posted on: April 23, 2019

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Being an immigrant who gotten beaten up as a kid for being different doesn’t do much to inspire my self-confidence. That’s my personal story. I’m sure you have your own version of this truth. And that’s ok. The problem is when we don’t look at our personal stories, they follow us around into our day jobs, lives and keep us from our purpose and power.

This is true if you are an artist, too. So let’s chat about building self-confidence to overcome more than just stage fright. Being an artist is so much more than people recognize. Being an artist is obviously about creating and sharing music with your raving fans. Being an artist is also about being a role model to your raving fans.

Why and how?

The world suffers (and I mean literally suffers) from lack of self-confidence. It shows up in all sorts of ways we choose to live: greed, anger, perfectionism, procrastination, snootiness, etc. The list is endless. Every one of us has an opportunity to role model what good self-confidence looks like to those who look at us and follow us.

As an artist, you have the literal honor of being on a stage in lights. For you building self-confidence so you can role model it is absolutely a must, as much as it is an honor and a gift. The best way for you to build your self-confidence is to look at the experience of being an artist as I’ve described it above. You literally get to be seen and heard on a stage. You get the gift of being a role model for others and helping them build their self-confidence.

Once you really decide to “own” the power and control you have, as a role model, to your raving fans, it can’t help boosting your self-confidence. It also becomes a big responsibility, which may seem scary at times. What you say and do and perform becomes something your fans may choose to follow and emulate. You can’t let fear dictate, though.

To support you in building your self-confidence and being an effective role model you need to have self-awareness always.

Stop and ask yourself:

  • Why did you choose to become an artist?
  • What do you hope to impart to your fans and why?
  • How best can you share that with your fans: a) during your actual set and b) when you are not on stage (ie, album art, interviews, social media content)

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Transforming Your Brand: Setting Goals for Your Business

Written by Katy Goshtasbi

Posted on: April 12, 2019

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I’ve been through many changes in my life. I changed homelands, changed jobs, changed cities in which I lived several times, and I changed careers. I define “change” as an event. All of these changes were events in my life. However, one event was bigger than a change- it was truly transformative in that this particular event caused me to grow, evolve and be better. This transformation was when I changed careers twelve years ago, requiring me to set new goals and shift my perspective on life. Let’s discuss transforming your brand by setting business goals.

The challenge most of my clients have is based on time. They are such busy professionals and employers and leaders that they have no time to set any goals. Without a goal, you can’t have a focal point on which to put your attention. The end result is no growth because you are treading water and in paralysis.

Sound harsh and dramatic?

It’s not meant to be. People who know me also know that I’m very pragmatic and direct.

Bottom line is that if you want to grow your business, career, staff and/or any aspect of your professional life using the brand you exude, you must transform your brand with focused and intentional branding goals.

How?

Do you really want it? First, you have to WANT to transform and achieve the end results discussed above. No amount of time and money will be worthwhile if you really aren’t willing to go through a transformation. Stop and take an honest assessment. If you can’t be honest with yourself, we’ve got a lot more work to do than you think and that’s ok. Just good to know up front.

Will you take the time? The only way I know to transform your brand with business goals is to sit down and take time to focus on the task at hand. If you are “too busy”, then you can’t get results. End of story. Stop and ask yourself, why are you too busy? Isn’t this the most important goal you could have on your list?

Take the time. If you answered “yes” to the two questions above, then the next step becomes actually carving out just 10 minutes a day to really make a difference. What do you do in those 10 minutes? Sit still, put a blank sheet of paper in front of you and imagine your professional life in a year. You have a magic wand in your hand. Wave the wand. What do you want? Write it down, look at it and leave it. Come back in a day and look at it again for 10 minutes. Change what needs to change. Repeat.

Simple? Easy?

The material I teach is foundational, not simplistic. Foundational means you are having the courage and are willing to invest in yourself as a professional.

I believe you’re worth it. I hope you do, too.

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The Do’s & Don’ts of Networking in the Music Industry

Written by Katy Goshtasbi

Posted on: April 8, 2019

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When I lived and practiced law in Washington, DC, I hardly knew what the word, “networking” even meant. Looking back though, I was constantly networking. I was showing up 3-4 nights a week at various events and parties on and off The Hill. We used to do so much networking that by the time the weekends rolled around, I was exhausted. However, it never felt like networking. It doesn’t matter the industry, in my expertise, the rules of networking are all the same. Let’s discuss the do’s and don’ts of networking in the music industry.

People hear the word “networking” and the same thing always happens. Most people cringe at the thought of making small talk and having to walk around and meet new people. The rest wonder what’s the best way to “sell themselves” and kiss up to the right people in order to climb the ranks.

It’s the same problem in the music industry. My artist clients are always wondering what they are supposed to do and not do to network in the music industry.

Let me make it really simple- it’s all about human psychology combined with what your mother and/or Miss Manners taught you.

DO:

  1. Figure out WHY you are an artist- know your personal story cold so you can share your uniqueness with those you are networking with. Otherwise, you are forgettable and show up like the zillions of other artists.
  2. Be patient- everything takes time and developing meaningful connections with people, who will remember and love you as an artist and human, takes time and patience.
  3. Be kind- be kind to everyone you meet. Assume everyone is that “one” special person who can be your raving fan and launch your career or catapult you even further. Truly, I’m asking you to just be nice, but if it takes you fearing screwing up with the wrong person, then so be it.

DON’T

  1. Pretend like you are someone you are not just to impress. The music industry is full of people pretending. No one will like you more if you are not authentic and real. The truth will surface at some point. When it does your lack of self-confidence will really be obvious. Be yourself. Be an artist. Be real.
  2. Overlook the subtle cues that move mountains. In music, as in life, the magic is in the subtleties. Watch for details in peoples’ mannerisms and body language to help you establish rapport when you network. I liken it to the subtleties when you are singing a note or writing a song.
  3. Sit it out. Show up, show up, show up. No one will ever know your greatness as an artist if you play small and hide behind your guitar or lyrics. We have to see you to love you, and your brand as an artist. So be courageous and show up as your authentic self. The right people will always notice and love you.

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Expanding Your Brand: Creating a Self-Development Plan to Grow

Written by Katy Goshtasbi

Posted on: April 1, 2019

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I remember when I was a junior lawyer starting out in my career. I would often find myself excited at the prospect of growing in my career and being a really good lawyer. I would also find myself overwhelmed at the thought of how I was going to accomplish all of that. I always felt like I hit a wall when I started going down the road of the “how”. These days I know the key to expanding your brand is to create a self-development plan to grow.

The key, in my expert opinion, to an effective self-development plan to grow your brand is NOT in the question of, “how will I grow my brand”? The key is in answering the question, “what will I grow my brand out to be”?

Focusing on “the what” is much more effective. Why?

The “what” in your brand is all about YOU. That’s exciting. It gives you the ability to step back and look at your life and career goals and life purpose ambitions/dreams. This big picture allows you to get creative, use your imagination and think big.

Once you have a good idea of what you want to grow your brand to be, you can now sit down and put together a self-development plan to achieve that brand expansion and growth. What will that self-development plan look like? The sky is the limit. It should look different for everyone. However, the key concepts to capture should include a good look at a) why- what is your purpose b) what natural strengths/talents do you have and how can you bring them to life and sharpen them c) how much time will you allocate to your plan, ie, how serious are you about your plan and d) how will you know when you have gotten to a good place in your plan- ie, how will you measure results?

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Aligning Your Staff For Success With A Professional Development Plan

Written by Katy Goshtasbi

Posted on: March 26, 2019

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In business, I’ve found that employers are much quicker to give negative feedback to their employees and point out what the employee is doing wrong. On the other hand, the old adage, “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it” applies to employers when it comes to actually creating a professional development plan to get employees to grow and be successful in their careers. Let’s discuss aligning your staff for success using a professional development plan.

In my legal career, I often remember being told what I was doing wrong. I also remember taking this feedback in as eagerly as I possibly could because I wanted to be better. I was always stumped, though. I remember wondering to myself, “well when are they going to tell me what I can do to get better and what my plan should be to grow here as a lawyer?”. It never happened. As I grew into my legal career, it really never happened because the assumption was that I had it all figured out, given all my experience. Right? Wrong. The result was that I was not as clear as I could have been about my strength, brand and goals. I was also not that my employer cared much about me.

Employers, understandably, want to hire and retain staff who do their job well and thus, lead to increased growth and productivity. Unfortunately, my consulting experience shows that employers’ focal point is on what the employees are doing wrong. This puts the emphasis on the negative and drives down employee morale. Low employee morale leads to low employee productivity. This is then the opposite result of what the employers were after.

What’s the solution?

I suggest all employers follow these steps for ultimate growth and brand success:

• Develop each individual employee’s brand-in this way, you can identify the employee’s strengths, story and weaknesses.

• Develop the business brand- now that you know the employee’s individual brand, the employer must take all those brands, push them to the top and create a corporate/business brand that sells outward well. Within this part, employers get to identify the business values, mission and align the business purpose with the employees’ brand purpose.

•  Develop a Professional Development Plan for each employee- now is the time to develop the professional development plan for each employee. Do not focus on the negative, but rather stop and assess what the employee is doing well and how can that work into their: a) job roles and b) future growth dreams and desires at your company. Discuss this with the employees and find alignment and an action plan.

Is this process fast and easy? No. It never will be and never should be. Branding is a marathon, not a sprint. Branding requires a solid and healthy foundation. This three-step process is foundational. Nothing foundation is fast and easy, nor simple. One thing I promise you is that it is key to your business growth and success.

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